Abstract
This essay consists of my personal theory of human communication. The essay will consist of what human communication is what it involves, and will primarily focus on the connection of human communication and relationships. This connection will involve symbolism and socio-culture theory and the significance of communication in a family structure.
1.0 What is Human Communication
According to the book, Theories of Human Communication, the task of defining communication is hard and is not easy to define (Littlejohn and Foss, 2008, pg. 3). Human communication is made of different parts, including symbols, meanings, mediums, and the people that are involved in communication and etc. Essentially, what does human communication involve?
1.1 What does Human Communication involve?
Communication involves how people react to exchanging and deciphering messages (Foss and Little john 2008, pg. 9).Human communication involves a lot of different theories that have philosophical dimensions such as the nature of being.
2.0 The Nature of Being
Ontology is the branch of philosophy that deals with oneself or the nature of being. According to the book, Theories of Human Communication, ontology deals with the nature of human existence and social interaction; thus relationships. An ontological issue is determining whether the human experience is individual or social? The proponents of the social view believe that humans can not be understood away from relationships (Foss and Littlejohn 2008, pg. 17).
3.0 Semiotic Tradition
Semiotics is the study of signs. It includes theories of how signs represent objects, ideas, states, situations, feelings, and conditions outside of themselves (Foss and Littlejohn 2008, pg. 35). One basic ideas of semiotics is the triad of meaning. The triad focuses on the relationship between three entities: sign, object, and meaning. For example, the words “equal to” can be associated with mathematical equations and the relationships between letters and numbers within the equations. The words “equal to”; are not the actual mathematical relationship. It is how I interpret and associate the word.
4.0 Socio Cultural Theory and Human Communication Anxiety.
Culture is a significant part of social interaction and human relationships. This is because communication happens between people, and thus relationships have the utmost importance (Foss and Littlejohn, 2008, pg. 44). Even though communication is very important in culture many are afraid or do not like communicating. In fact, people are very apprehensive. This communication apprehensiveness is included in a group of concepts called communication anxiety. This type of anxiety consists of physiological and behavioral aspects; which in many ways involve the human relationship. I personally have encountered many of the aspects of social and communication anxiety, Such as over-breathing, a faster heart rate and avoidance (Foss and Littlejohn, 2008, pg. 67).
5.0 Identity
Communication is the means by which identity is established and how one’s identity relates to a cultural group or community. Identity is relational and is simply how a person relates to another. Relational Identity can be described as a customer and supplier, brother and sister, and husband and wife (Foss and LittleJohn, 2008, pg. 89)
6.0 The Right Mindset: Treat the customer as a Foreigner.
According to the book, Thriving on Chaos, the writer recommends that the readers should treat their customers as foreigners who do not speak their language (Peters, 1991, pg.182). For example, while I was a sale associate for Gregg Appliances we were told by our managers to relate to our customers. So, if a customer was without basic knowledge of the product that was being presented, we would qualify and demonstrate the product in a way that a Kindergarten student is taught their ABCs. The delivery was simple and easily understood by the customer.
6.1 Action and Intent
This type of delivery gave the best results. In addition with treating the customer as a foreigner, I included what is described in Thriving on Chaos, the feedback and action (reinforcing the intent) concept. This includes qualifying the customer based on their needs and wants (Peters, 1991, pg. 369).
7.0 Marriages and Relationships.
Communication is important in a healthy marriage. According to Foss and Littlejohn there are three types of marriage traditional, independent, and separate.
7.1 Traditional Marriages
Traditional Marriages tend to have very consensual families, meaning that they communicate very well. In the traditional family, the parents normally make the decisions. The parents tend to be sharing more companionship and tend to have strong feelings against infidelity.
7.2 Independent Marriages
Independent Marriages have a traditional view of marriage. The husband and wife do not rely (communicate) on each other as much as those in a traditional marriage. Independent marriages have a lot conflicts.
7.3 Separate Marriages
In separate marriages, conflicts do not last long. This is because they do not share much with each other; such as bedrooms or bank accounts. According to Baxter’s Relationship Theory, the traditional, independent, and separate marriages are all constructed by the couple’s dialogue. This dialogue, the communication between the ones in the couple; is the foundation of the marriage relationship.
8.0 Conclusion Section
In conclusion, I have discussed my human communication theory with a focus on human relationships. Ryan Wolfgang said that “human communication as with critical study; seems to become more difficult to grasp when you try to understand it. Ryan Wolfgang (personal communication October 20, 2007). That also goes for communication and its connection with relationships. Without communication: relationships die. To add value to that, Lisa Wade believes that “without human communication we might find ourselves wandering alone in the woods, waiting for trees to fall on our heads. Lisa Wade (personal communication, October 22, 2007).
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Personal Communication List
1. Lisa Wade, Personal Communication, October 22, 2007
2. Ryan Wolfgang, Personal Communication, October 20, 2007